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My first few matches were with men whose eyes I gazed into for prolonged periods of time, or whose hands I held while still staring into their eyes.We were sometimes told to compliment each other — the recipient had to say “thank you” after each kind statement — or share what gives us joy.Hosted by the Tantra Institute of New York, tantra speed dating takes place once a month at Reflections, Center for Conscious Living & Yoga in New York City, with upcoming events also planned for Boston, San Francisco, and Reno, Nevada.The two-hour-long event is intended to give “mindful singles” the opportunity to connect with potential matches through a series of mindfulness exercises (like apologizing to the people in front of you) instead of dating apps.I had two minutes of small talk with a man older than my dad, who waxed on about the benefits of orgasmic meditation.
This was my introduction to flirting, tantra-style.
But then the activities started to get more intense.
One man and I had to place our right hands on each others hearts, and he graciously did his best to avoid touching my boob.
The Tantra Institute’s co-founder Daka Guy told me that the event came out a need for people to meet outside of technology.
“People are not connecting in person as much today as they were before smartphones,” Guy said.
When I got home after the event, the first thing I did was hop in the shower, as I had just spent an evening awkwardly embracing 17 random men. Despite feeling stressed while the event was happening and the occasional flashbacks to attempting to lie down in a stranger’s lap, it was as if I had just returned from an evening at a spa (for my mind).